Mixed News

Should we be happy that someone is now settling down with a partner after being on her own for most of her life, or should we be sad at all those wasted years?

We've known "Big C", a tall beautiful athletic woman, for over twenty-five years. We used to see her frequently but much less so since she moved first to Australia, and then to London. In all that time, we've never seen her in a relationship. We understood it at first, because in those days, she was a Christian member of a church that strongly disapproved of any extra-marital sex at all. But over recent years, we wondered. She's fun to be with, good company, and (as I said, good-looking) We wondered if she was gay. When asked, C vehemently denied it, explaining that she just didn't feel want relationships with either sex, and that she also felt disgusted by the idea of sex with a woman.

But times change.

We recently learned that C has moved back to Australia again, and is seeking citizenship as a person in a same-sex relationship. We're really happy for her. It's a very mixed feeling, because the implication is that for very many years she has been unable to admit to being gay, nor to her long-time relationship with the woman she loves. And that inability to admit herself to the world is very sad. Nevertheless, both Moonface and I are so pleased for C, and wish her all the best in her new life, and in becoming an Australian.